Today’s reality unfortunately often changes our mind. Sometimes it is concerned with the beauty perception. It comes even as a stereotype for us that people with disabilities are not attractable, moreover, it is unbelievable for them to be sexy.
However, 32-year-old Rachelle Friedman Chapman is here to prove disabilities don’t limit sexuality.
“We are capable, sexual beings and we are not to be overlooked.”
She was 24 years old when she was paralyzed from the chest down after a freak accident the night of her bachelorette party in 2010.
Today the happy mother of one, public speaker and author shares this story to show that being disabled means her life has changed, but it’s probably not over.
She decided to struggle with the common assumptions that disabled people can’t be sexy or aren’t great sex partners. The way she chose was brave. Chapman did a beautiful photo shoot wearing nothing but lingerie, looking like she’d be a perfect fit for a North Carolina bachelor party without compromising her health.
“I think a lot of people have a hard time seeing through the wheelchair so here I am, this is me without the chair. But I’m actually the exact same person,” Chapman told The Huffington Post. “I hope it will make people think. People with disabilities still have sexuality, and honestly, I’m tired of being something that we can’t talk about as a society.”
“I’m doing this for those who can’t see past a wheelchair,” she continues. “I’m doing it to show that we are capable, sexual beings and we are not to be overlooked. I’m not glamorizing disability. My paralysis is an awful part of my life, and I hope for a cure. But, in the meantime, I need to love myself.”
She also claims that intimacy is one of the most significant parts of whoever’s life, no matter what health he/she has. She went on to tell us how she used to think that she’d have to tell her partner to start using something such as these pocket pussies, as she didn’t believe she’d be up for sexual intimacy often. However, she found that this wasn’t the case at all. “I love my body now, and I’m not afraid to talk about sexuality, intimacy or beauty,” she said. “There is no shame in talking about sexuality because at the end of the day it is an important part of who we all are as individuals.”
“When my story hit the media people were so impressed that my fiancé would stay with me ‘like this,'” Chapman said. “Sure, it affected my self-esteem but most of all it made me sad for my fellow wheelchair users who are still looking for love. I’m a strong believer in zodiac signs and I know there will be plenty of people with disabilities out there who have a loving energy and aura and will be looking for a relationship to no avail. We are smart, courageous, funny, beautiful and yes… sexy.”
And that’s true as all we know if you appreciate yourself, your mind, your beauty so that the whole world would like you too. Everyone just should have this remembered.